While I’ve always been rather moderate in my politics, I am a child of the 60’s. One of the phrases that was used a lot back then by the militants and flower children was ‘If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem”.
As you review your own behavior in life, do you make sure you’re part of the solution or would others see you as part of the problem?
When you’re part of the problem, you probably feel victimized by your circumstances, powerless to change them and/or resigned that nothing you do can fix what’s really wrong with your world.
This likely leaves you reluctant to take action, bitter and resentful, maybe even hopeless.
You would recognize this by the language you use privately in your own head and in conversation with others.
“If only those idiots over there would get their act together…”
“I have to…”
They all reflect a loss of power, a lack of empowerment, an absence of responsibility for causing the world to be the way you say it should be.
So, I’ll ask again, “Are you a leader or a liability?” And just as important…how to people SEE you?
Leaders get ahead, get promoted, get great clients.
Liabilities get ignored or worse yet, fired, retired, RIFed (reduced in force), laid off or go broke.
So what does it take to be seen as a leader in your company, community, business or family?
Three things distinguish leaders from whiners and naysayers.
1. Leaders DO SOMETHING CONSTRUCTIVE to fix the problem once they’ve identified it.
The don’t sit around and blame The Establishment, their bosses, employees, kids or spouse for their problem. They name the problem and communicate. They make requests or demands for it’s resolution…from someone who is empowered to take that action. They might even take the matter into their own hands and fix it themselves.
2. Leaders strive to bring opposing sides together to see an outcome that will benefit the larger community. They care about the impact of their actions on others.
Collaboration is the strategy true leaders use to create common goals and passion for making them real.
3. Leaders encourage others to feel empowered and helpful, not righteous, smug and victorious, wanting to suppress the rights of others.
When people are working on altruistic causes, they WILL feel enlightened. Their Spirit will know they are on the right track. Certainly some leaders can push non-altruistic, selfish causes, but their followers will tend to feel entitled and indignant rather than grounded in the common good.
Liabilities, on the other hand sit back and point fingers. They lay blame and accuse others of being the Bad Guys without offering any proactive suggestions to improve conditions.
They enact a quiet, and sometimes, not so quiet, mutiny. They sabotage forward movement. They throw rocks into the cogwheels of progress. They pride themselves in making life difficult for others.
They may be proactive but could tend to use domination and force rather than collaboration and power balancing.
So, how would the people around you see you? Are you bringing solutions for the betterment of all or waiting for someone else to step forward while complaining they aren’t acting swiftly enough?