Category Archives: Personal development

Goal Setting and New Year’s Resolutions

Goal setting and New Year’s Resolutions: how are they connected?

In my Fox10 interview, I spoke with Rick D’Amico about how to give New Year’s resolutions staying power so they (and your resolve) last longer than a New York minute.

Here are a few tips from the video, but I encourage you to watch the 5-minute clip.

1.  Use SMART goals.  Be clear and specific. Quantify the end result (lose 10 pounds by March 15)

2.  Be realistic – Start with something you believe you could achieve.  Don’t set your sights so high that your subconscious mind says “no way”.

3.  Be in action – Rita Mae Brown said the definition of insanity is “Doing the same thing expecting a different result”. Start consistently doing the behaviors that support the goal you have set.

4.  Be connected – Get an accountability partner or coach; take a class.  Surround yourself with people who will encourage you to stay on task and on track.

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Also, take time to reward yourself when you hit milestones that let you know you’re on your way to that Big, Bold Goal you set.

Getting known as an expert

There are many ways that you can position yourself as an expert.  And being an expert is critical because (I’m sure you’re heard), people do business with (and hire) people that they know, like and trust.

If you’re not known, not liked and not trusted, it’s highly unlikely that people will hire you to provide a service for them or to work for them.

Here are some things you can do to heighten your expert status.

  1. If you’re just getting started and aren’t sure what you’re an expert in, take some time to review your career and resume.  If you’ve worked at all, there has got to be something you can say you’re an expert at. Don’t be shy or modest.  Don’t underestimate your knowledge.  Many people discount their expertise thinking that if they know it, everybody does.  Or even if everybody doesn’t know what they know, it still must not be that important if they know it.  Not true.
  2. Write a book.  This will increase your credibility as an expert almost immediately and it’s not as hard to do as you think.
  3. If you can’t muster an entire book, write articles and publish them on the internet.  Submit them to article directories, put them on your blog.  Submit them to some of the ‘expert’ sites like www.selfgrowth.com.  I’m registered as a business coach expert on  at www.selfgrowth.com/experts/loretta_love_huff.html
  4. Make a list of topics that you could speak on for 20 minutes and then contact local business networking groups and offer your services as a speaker.  You don’t have to be eloquent.  Just knowledgeable about something people are interested in and able to communicate in an organized and interesting manner.

Writing and speaking are some of the easiest ways to show off your expertise and build your credibility.  The hardest part is often just getting started.

Strive to Arrive and Thrive

I’m pictured here with Brittanee Perkins, the 2009 Miss Black Arizona (and former Band student of my husband, Karl) along with Rozan Latham, Miss Black Teen Arizona.

I attended the Phoenix Black Chamber Awards Banquet last week and noticed two ‘princesses’ walking through the crowd. Then said to myself, “Hey I know one of those princesses!” So I want over to congratulate them.

One of the first things Brittannee said was “Wish us luck!” I said, ‘Luck? For what? You just won!’

She replied, “We’re going to compete at Nationals!”

Forward progress depends on goals. What will you strive for next year?

Here are some tips to help you get on your way:

Release your limits & let go of negative thinking

We often talk ourselves out of ‘going for it’ before we even begin.  We think we can’t so we don’t try.  They guess what?  We won’t!

Consult your heart & unleash your dreams

Your heart knows best.  Your brain will try to talk you out of your dreams in order to ‘protect’ you from failure. Don’t listen to it.

Lay out a plan

You can’t just snap your fingers and make it so.  You need to figure out the steps to reach your goal.

Get the resources you need

Don’t try to do it alone.  You’ll exhaust yourself.  There are people around you who want to help and who would love to participate with you in some way.  Take classes if you need more knowledge.  Outsource as much as you can

Get to work

As one of my clients, John Ficorelli, sales executive extraordinaire, said “It’s one thing to have a plan.  It’s quite another to actually execute it!”

Take some time over the holiday season to intentionally dream and plan for next year.  Extract yourself from the hustle-bustle and give yourself a gift – the highest, best future you are meant to live.

Did you do your best?

I don’t watch a lot of game shows, but one I do enjoy is “Are You Smarter than a 5th Grader?  Based on that show, I am NOT smarter than a 5th grader – at least not now.

A week or so ago, I saw an episode of rerun that had brought tears to my eyes when it was first on the air and even though I knew the outcome, I watched it again.

The contestant was Cathy Cox, the State Superintendent of Schools for the State of Georgia.

You would hope that if anyone would be smarter than a 5th grader, it would be her. For those of you who have never seen the show, contestants are given questions to answer from various 5th grade subjects like U.S. history, geography, math, etc. They have a team of actual 5th grade students available to help them out when their confidence wanes.

The money Cathy would win would go to the schools of Georgia, not to her personally as in many episodes. She did a great job correctly answering each of the questions without the assistance of her young team mates.  She got all the way through the subjects and was then faced with answering the $1 million dollar question which she would have to do on her own.

If she missed it, she would take only $25K rather than the $500K she had accumulated. It was a big gamble. The stakes were high as was the tension in the studio.

Cathy decided to go for it.  The $1 million question was presented and she wasn’t positive of the answer. She reasoned it through, came up with her best guess and then right before she “locked it in”, she said “I did my best”.

Do you do your best?  Do you do your homework before a big meeting?  Do you think clearly and weigh the pros and cons of your decision?  Do you think big?  Do you dare to dream?  Do you trust your instinct and then act courageously?  Do you give everything your best shot?

Cathy did and she took $1 million dollars back to Georgia!  (My eyes are welling up again, just thinking about it.)

The audience cheered, hooped and hollered.  The 5th graders rushed to her side and lots of hugs and kisses and high 5s were exchanged.