Category Archives: Personal development

7 ‘C’s that Create Champions


I’ve been watching some of the Summer Olympics games.  I’m always inspired by the performances of the Olympians.  Their drive and commitment to excellence…perfection, even…are truly admirable.

Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, employee, executive, homemaker, artist or fall in some other category, if you have dreams and ambitions, the concepts below will help fuel YOUR achievement.

1. Clarity
True champions know their ‘end game’. They are focused and have a deep sense of what they want to do and why. It’s a priority for them. It defines them and they organize their lives around their goal.

2. Competence/Capability
They may have natural skills and abilities. But it’s possible, they may have developed their skills out of a decision to do so. In other words, their skills have been cultivated from years of classes, practice, coaching and hard work.

3. Curiosity
Many of the things I’m good at now are the result of developing an interest and learning everything I could about it.  People who excel in certain arenas may have just been curious in the beginning. They wanted to know how things worked. They studied and continue to wonder how to become even better, faster, stronger, more adept…

4. Centeredness
To experience peak performance, one must ignore distractions and stop listening to the naysayers.  Can you imagine doing your best with hundreds, thousands, millions of eyes staring at you? Excellence arises from within. Focusing your attention on the quiet part of Self who knows exactly what to do or say and how to do or say it.  At some point, you have to shut down outside influences and trust that you know enough and are enough to be excellent.

5. Courageousness
Google defines courageous as ‘not deterred by danger or pain; brave’. I didn’t know Google was in the dictionary business, but I liked the expression they offered. Being undeterred is what allows champions to move forward in the face of outside obstacles and internal insecurities.

6.  Confidence
Many people, unfortunately believe confidence is a prerequisite for accomplishment. It’s not. Confidence is what arises generally after a significant, momentous event has ended.   It’s often only after overcoming  obstacles and confronting internal fears that one feels truly invincible (or at least, prepared) for the big event on the horizon.

7.  Caring
I’m always moved by the celebrations of love and appreciation for team members, even rivals at times, I see as they watch each other perform.  Nothing bolsters a healthy, human ego like being able to empathize and care for someone else. Bullies may make apparent progress, but (I believe) their souls are suffering and their accomplishments, hollow.  As Theodore Roosevelt said “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”





How to Create a FABULOUS Life

fabulous2_by_demkittykat-d8e804dAs you set goals and think about your future, you might wonder what it takes to make those ‘dreams’ a reality.

Accomplishing them takes more than just stating them. You must create an emotional and psychological environment that supports their realization.

Below are the F.A.B.U.L.O.U.S. requirements for living a fabulous life.

Free from fear
By this, I don’t mean the absence of fear. If you’re living and growing, from time to time, you SHOULD encounter situations that require you venture outside your comfort zone. It’s hard to expand when you stay under the radar of safety and predictability. And those situations often evoke fear.

Living free from fear, means not allowing fear to be the determinant of the action you take (or don’t take). You’ve heard the phrase…”Feel the fear and do it anyway”.

Action orientation
When you stop allowing your fear to dictate your decisions, you’ll be more free to do what it takes to move forward toward your aspirations.  When you’re inspired to do something, follow your inner guidance and start it right away. Don’t dally. Don’t procrastinate. Take action.

According to The Merriam Webster Dictionary, buoyancy is ‘the tendency of a body to flow or rise; the power to exert an upward force; resiliency of spirit.’

Undoubtedly, if you’re living free from fear and taking courageous actions, you’ll likely encounter occasional situations that don’t go as planned.

The key is not to avoid risk, but to learn from it and move forward. Buoyancy will support you in that effort.

I believe we’re here on Earth to learn and grow, to experience and contribute, to express and expand.

Sometimes, people slip into (and stay) a rut. It’s easy to do.  But resist that tendency.  Be conscious and stay vigilant. Always have something you’re at work on. Strive to improve a skill, an attitude, a project, your relationships.

…is the answer. Self-love, love of life. Sometimes my clients confess they doubt themselves. They doubt their abilities and the value they bring. One thing is certain…EVERYONE has a contribution to make.

Many people, however, discount their gifts believing if they find something easy to do well, everyone is equally competent. Sometimes they recognize their gifts but have a hard time feeling worthy and deserving of being paid well
for them.

Loving yourself more deeply will allow you to trust your instincts, honor your desires, and feel more optimistic in life.

Identify YOUR gifts. Appreciate them. Value them. Love them. Show them the respect they deserve. Express them and allow others to benefit from them. And…feel great about getting paid handsomely for them.

This one quality will make all the rest easier to experience. Feeling a sense of hope and possibility will support you in more readily attracting and seeing opportunities that exist, taking calculated risks and feeling happier in the process, no matter what happens.

While it can be self-defeating to act quickly without thought, acting purposefully with speed will accelerate your forward momentum and create outcomes you can build on.

Practicing the experience of tranquility and peace will promote the possibility of optimism mentioned above. These positive feelings will promote a healthy lifestyle, a peaceful attitude and a sense of gratitude.

fabulous1_by_yoshilovesauto-d32gnrfSo include these practices into your daily life and enjoy your FABULOUS life!

5 Ways to Use Fear to Fuel Your Financial Freedom

Comfort-squareMost humans resist the idea of stepping directly into the things that frighten them. Of course, there are  some things that warrant fear and deserve avoidance action (crime, fire, hurricanes, etc). But those are things we don’t tend to encounter regularly in our daily lives (hopefully).

Fear, none-the-less, is often present and yet not always warranted. If you are reaching beyond your comfort zone, you’ll likely feel afraid. That does NOT mean, you shouldn’t reach. You should always reach.

Here are some specific strategies you can use to take that fear and turn it into freedom, financial freedom or personal freedom.

1. Do the scariest thing on your to-do list the first thing in the morning

This will free you up immediately. Even if you don’t get the result you wanted, just the fact that you confronted your fear and took action will build your confidence and allow you to tackle other things on your list that will now feel easy and breezy.

2. Ask your inner guidance what the fear is trying to protect you from.
Then figure out a different way to salve yourself that allows you to take the action you need to take. For example, if you’re planning a conversation with someone that you’re a bit nervous about, sit quietly with yourself and determine what action or reaction you’re anticipating with worry. If it’s a reaction from the other party, start your conversation with “I need to share something important with you but I’m afraid that (insert the thing you’re afraid they’ll feel or do) “your feelings will be hurt” or “you’ll get angry”. This will do two things 1) empower you to speak your truth and 2) disempower the likelihood of reaction you were afraid of.

3. Know that when you’re about to step off a ‘virtual’ cliff that you’ll either land on solid ground or you’ll learn to fly.
This action just takes faith. You’ve probably heard the phrase, “If you can dream it, you can achieve it.” If the idea weren’t possible for you, the idea wouldn’t have come to you. The Universe is now just waiting for you to take action on it.

Goethe said “What you can do, or dream you can do, begin it; Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.”

There is some controversy that Goethe actually said this ( but whoever said it, let it set you free.

4. Design strategies or tactics that will minimize the potential for the thing you’re scared of to manifest.
In the corporate world, this is called Anticipatory Planning, Scenario Planning. Attempt to foresee potential problems and develop solutions to them before they become real, current problems. Once you work your way through what might happen and what you’ll do next or what you might do to reduce the likelihood that the thing will happen (as in point 2), your confidence will improve and you’ll handle the situation with more grace, ease and confidence.

5. Ask for help.
You are not alone in this world and you don’t need to face every fear by yourself. As your friends, colleagues, boss, family, spirit guides, God etc. for assistance, support, courage…whatever you need.

Be specific. Ask for what you want.

These tips will work asking for a raise, having a difficult conversation with a friend, stepping onto a larger ‘platform’ in life, confronting a vendor or client, going after a promotion or big prospect. They just require that you take some forward-moving action rather than retreating into your fear or comfort zone and letting your freedom, financial or otherwise, slip between your fingers.

Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.  ~George Addair

Be aware of your fears, but not beholden to them. Use them as stepping stones to your future and a brave new world. Loretta Love Huff


5 Top Tips for Getting What You Want

NEW-YEARS-RESOLUTIONS-large570At the beginning of the year, many people make New Year’s resolutions, vowing to bring some new quality into their lives.

Progress is always a good thing. And the DECISION to make progress is the first step.

Unfortunately, if not done properly, setting goals doesn’t always get you to your destination. Whether it’s a promise made at the stroke of midnight or a commitment made at some other time, there are important aspects to those desires that help ensure they will be made manifest.
Here are my 5 tips for getting what you want:

1. Be clear
Know what you want. When you know where you’re heading, the path to get there becomes more apparent. Desire is one of the key secret ingredients to a better live. Avoid focusing on where you DON’T want to be and keep your attention on your desired outcome.

2. Be explicit
In addition to being clear, be explicit, meaning make that picture crystal clear. If you can put a number with it (15 pounds), all the better. Articulate in as much detail as you can muster. The Universe may reward you with something slightly different, but the process of you getting so clear that you CAN be explicit will help you ferret out what’s really important to you.

3. Be expressive
Expressiveness has two aspects. One reflects a deep emotion related to the object of your desire like joy, accomplishment, security. It’s important to FEEL the way you’ll feel once the goal is in hand BEFORE it’s in your hand. That feeling attracts the thing to you.

The second aspect is an outward expression of your desire. Go public with your goal. It’s amazing how much more likely you’ll be to take action if the world knows what you’re up to than if you’re dealing with it in secrecy. Ask for support and help. Tell people why it’s important to you and even how it’s realization will benefit THEM. That What’s-in-it-for-me? aspect will really get them in your corner.

4. Be persistent
While the goal may get reached quickly, it’s likely to take some time. Don’t give up at the first sign of trouble or lack of progress. Persist. Believe in yourself. Belief in your goal. If you need the help of others, believe in them. If they seem to have lost interest, re-engage them. It’s YOUR goal, not theirs necessarily. They may have forgotten. Remind them why it’s important. Be polite but relentlessly persistent.

5. Be-lieve
The number one factor that makes the prior four possible is to believe. When you believe, you can be clear, explicit, expressive and persistent. Goals do not always get completely quickly. Sometimes when goals/dreams are first born, the circumstances surrounding the beholder might make the goal seem completely unrealistic. Never look to your circumstances to validate your dreams. Clearly, you need to be aware of your circumstances and the point from which you are starting. But belief has overcome many a hurdle while lack of it has stopped many dead in their tracks.

See it. Say it. Believe it. Be it!


7 Key Steps to Achieving Mastery

balance-masteryAccording to Merriam-Webster, “mastery” is defined as: 1) knowledge and skill that allows you to do, use, or understand something very well, 2) complete control of something, 3) possession or display of great skill or technique.
Here a 7 key steps to achieving mastery…

1. Decide.
I’m becoming more and more aware of the power of the decisions we make in our lives. Without a decision to do something, life moves on somewhat aimlessly, resigned to dealing with the outside incidents and internal states through at us.
Decisions however, alter the course of your future. Once you make a decision to do something, to master something, the path to achieving it becomes more clear. You may not know all of the steps, but deciding is the first one.

2. Focus.
You have to concentrate your energy in the direction of the area you want to master. This might start with taking a class or practicing, but the key component is the focus. You may need to re-prioritize your activities and how you spend your time. Mastery, unless you’re already, naturally, extremely gifted in that area, doesn’t happen overnight.

3. Delegate
Get rid of the other things that steal your time, drain your energy and suck your soul right out of you. Life must continue, but for you to focus, you’ll likely need other people taking care of some of the tasks that don’t require your talents or that have slipped to a lower priority status now that you’ve decide to master something.

4. Take risks.
Mastery won’t happen inside your comfort zone. You’ll need to press the edges of what you know and step outside of them frequently. You won’t discover new horizons if you stay in territory you’re already familiar with.

5. Evaluate.
As you progress, regularly take time to step back and ask questions like
“What can I do better?”
“Is there a more efficient way to get this done?”
“If I weren’t attached to doing it the way I currently am, what else might I try?”
“If I were a master at this already, what would I do?”

6. Improve.
Incorporate the insights gained from your consistent questioning of your process, progress, skill level, mindset shifts about what’s possible. Do it one more time. Do it a different way. Do it more quickly. Reach for your goal.

7. “Rinse and repeat”.
Mastery is a continuous process. Even once you think you’ve achieved mastery, you’ll see there is farther to go. I’m reminded of the process of cleaning or weeding. You get started and work to remove what shouldn’t be there. You think you’re almost done, but now that the area is more ‘clean’ you notice dirt and weeds that had previously been obscured by the massive about of dirt and weeks that were there when you first started.

Mastery is like that. The better you get, the more you’ll see how you can improve. Rejoice in that process.

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