Many people I talk to struggle with feeling over committed, overwhelmed and overworked. Do you have a faithful companion who supports you in your important quests? Or are you trying to fight for law and order in your ‘town’ on your own?
Here are 7 signs that you’re maxing out on your effectiveness.
1. You’re routinely one of the last people to leave the office
There really is a limit to the amount of stuff you can do in a 24-hour period. When you try to do too much, you routinely work into the evening or even late at night. Other people seem to be able to get out of the office at a decent hour, but not you.
2. The work you take home with you causes problems for your family
Your family complains because you’re always on your computer, cell phone or laptop. They miss you and want to ‘play’ with you but you’re to busy doing ‘important’ work.
3. You feel resentful of the people around you
When you’re dealing with too much to do, it could seem like others around you are sloughing off.
The reality is that you’re responsible for your situation and your feelings. If you’re complaining bitterly (and silently) to yourself, speak up. If you need help, ask for it.
4. You miss deadlines
One of the problems of having too much on your plate is that your work suffers. There never seems to be enough time in the day. You have too many commitments to keep up with them all. Your reputation suffers as does your self-respect.
5. Your schedule is filled with too many (unimportant) activities
You may feel important and ‘in demand’ but if you look, it’s possible that time is sucked up because you can’t say “No!”. You agree to things that are inconsistent to your big goals (if you’ve even bothered to create them).
6. Your big goals are languishing on the back burner of your life
As a result, you never get to the things you say are truly meaningful. That vacation of a lifetime, the book inside you, the relationship, the call to a family member or long-term friend. You may secretly fear you’ll end up alone.
7. You don’t enjoy work anymore
When all of these things add up, it casts a heavy cloud over your days. The job you once loved is now a burden. Your health suffers and does your spirit.
As you may have heard me say, “We have more options than we generally see and more control than we tend to take. It’s time for you to take control.”
Make requests. Ask for help. Say “No”. Remind yourself what your life is about. (Hint: It’s probably NOT what other people are telling you it should be about.
You get to choose. Look into your heart and ask, “If this were my last year on earth, what would I be spending my time doing?“, then re-prioritize and get started.