It’s funny how we hold onto discarded things not realizing what that does to trap our energy. What I discovered when I stumbled upon a relic from my past could help you free up some mental and emotional energy to reinvest in your current day-to-day life.
I had just missed participating in a “Sell Your Gold” event at my professional association’s holiday extravaganza.
So when I returned home, I started combing my closets and jewelry cases for items that had lost their psychological value for me that I could turn into cash.
I came upon a beautiful ring case, not even remembering which ring was inside. When I opened it up, I was surprised to find my ‘half’ of a wedding band set my previous husband and I had designed.
The set was laden with Adrinka symbols that had a lot of significance for us and where we each were in our spiritual life journey.
Years later as our marriage faltered and I realized I was more attached to that ring and the symbols of our marriage than our ACTUAL marriage, I knew it was time to go. We separated and divorced. I tucked the ring away, moved on, moved to Phoenix, married my college sweetheart and forgot about the ring.
A few years ago, I stumbled upon the ring and looked at it fondly – not longing at all for the ex-husband, but touched by the symbols and design process that had created the ring years earlier. I put it away again and apparently, forgot about it again.
Last week, in my hunt for buried jewels, I found it once more. This time, my reaction was “Whoo hoo! Bonanza! This will be a great trade in!” There were some remnant memories of the creation process but clearly any attachment I had for keeping the ring was gone. I took a picture, called the gold dealer, got in the car happy and was on my way.
I got a better price than expected. Double Bonanza!
On the drive home, I was surprised by the sense of light-heartedness and freedom I felt. Getting that forgotten and years-unseen ring out of my home and life somehow felt like an unexpected Declaration of Independence.
Reminds me of that hair dye commercial based on the South Pacific song, “Gonna Wash that Man/Grey Right Out of My Hair”.
While I hadn’t been feeling the need to wash the ex right out of my hair any longer, once the opportunity arose, it felt great!
So, how does this apply to you?
1. Clean up. Clean out.
Cleaning your environment and life of discarded and unnecessary things, frees up an amazing amount of energy that you can’t anticipate nor appreciate until you’ve done it.
So go through your drawers, closets, garage and car to throw out, give away or sell things that are taking up physical space. They’re probably draining your emotional space on an undetectable, subconscious level too. You’ll be energized by their absence.
2. Forgive and move on.
I read a Facebook post on someone’s wall today about the power of forgiveness. The main reason people seem reluctant to forgive is that they think they’re doing something for the object of their resentment. The secret is that forgiveness is just for you. It allows you to at least start the process to ‘wash that memory out of your life.”
Forgiveness takes time, but if you’re not willing, you can’t even get started. If you’ve been holding on to any grudges, tell yourself you’re WILLING to forgive and eventually you will. You won’t forget the lessons you learned, but you will regain part of your soul.
3. Give thanks for what you have
Every night I say thanks for the life I’m living. Some people keep a gratitude journal that documents the wonderful things in their lives. Writing makes them more real and less transitory (ergo forgotten). Tell the people around you precisely what you appreciate about them. You’ll lighten their day immeasurably and feel happier yourself.
I remember reading a book on loving relationships and one of the exercises involved
saying something nice to your partner every day. Not only does that bring more love and joy into the relationship, but by some function of the ego which can’t distinguish between you and ‘other’, makes you feel happier too.
So clean out those closets, brains, hearts and relationships and make room for new, happy and prosperous experiences in your life.