One of the big mistakes some people make is waiting for energy, happiness and prosperity to descend upon them. Someday, things will be better, they muse.
Well, I’m here to let you know that you control how soon ‘someday’ arrives.
I was out on my morning walk the other day and spotted this dredging machine cleaning out a water canal of one of the local utilities. Over time, dust, leaves and trash accumulate in the canals and slow the flow of water. These ‘routers’ remove the debris so the water flows more easily.
This cleaning process made me wonder how often we rid ourselves of our debris in life.
If you want to create more ‘flow’ in your life, here are seven simple things you can do.
1. Set and communicate boundaries
We get resentful when people’s behavior doesn’t meet our expectations. Yet, we’re often guilty of not communicating those expectations. (They should just know, we righteously tell ourselves.) You have to let people know what makes you happy or not and what you need from them.
2. Un-volunteer from activities that have become a burden
If you’re involved in activities or responsibilities that leave you feeling unhappy or anxious, graciously remove yourself. Don’t just run away. Turn things over in a responsible manner. Identify ‘next steps’, find someone to replace you, train them and step away.
3. Renegotiate relationships
Years ago, I realized that one of my best friends couldn’t keep her mouth shut. I would share things with her as good friends do, but then learn that she had shared them with someone else. I started specifying that this item is confidential, but even those disclosures got repeated. I finally decided to only tell her things I wanted everyone to know. I never felt violated or disappointed in her again!
4. Donate or sell your stuff
Our neighborhood organized a community garage sale this past weekend. We didn’t participate but it did remind me to deliver that bag of items I had set aside for Goodwill or Salvation Army. If you have things lying around ‘just in case’, get rid of them. eBay is another good option that allows you to make a little money from your purge.
Stuff accumulates in our homes. It becomes invisible to us but still drains the flow of ‘chi’, that life force energy that surrounds us and that blockage eventually drains our spirit.
5. List (and finish) your incomplete projects or items
Our soul gets burdened by the accumulation of ‘someday I’ll finish xyz‘ thoughts. Whether you’re afraid to tackle it or it’s just not high on your to-do list, it’s existence is weighing you down.
Empty your head of all of your ideas. Write them down on paper. Attach completion dates to them, even if the date is “Never”. Then get to work. If you start with the scariest, you’ll feel amazing once it’s done. If you start with something easy, you’ll feel successful too. Just start somewhere and keep going.
I’ve mentioned this before, but it bears repeating. If your to-do list is too long, give some of the items away. Even though you might do it best, it may not be best for you to do. Give it to someone who can get it done well enough. It will get done faster and you’ll be relieved of one more burden.
7. Deliver undelivered communications
One of the biggest thieves of our souls is stuffing important communications and tolerating unpleasant situations. They consume our mind and energy. They rob us of important progress we could make in our lives. Find a gentle way to broach the touchy subject, get it off your chest and come to some sort of resolution with the other person.
Do these seven simple steps and you’ll discover energy, confidence and opportunities you didn’t know you had!